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The smartest way to approach shy dating is to push yourself into an engaging conversation, even if you're doing this online and not in person there are still similar methods you can adopt in order to improve your conversation skills. Think of interesting topics before you start chatting online or before you meet up in person; if you know anything about her then try to use your insight to figure out something about her personality and what she would like to talk about. After you've done this then structure a conversation or think of interesting questions around those subjects. It may sound contrived and odd, but it shouldn't come out that way, and who cares if it seems planned - conversation isn't easy for everyone, in fact for some people it's extremely hard, so if you're not great at it, why not prepare?
If you are a contemplative type of person then use this as your strength; many people who try to talk to others find it difficult to involve themselves in a person's conversation as the subject matter can, at times, be uninteresting or non-relatable; but this is an important part of making a connection, your actions speak loudly, if you're in a conversation you need to look engage, both physically and mentally. If you can make an insightful comment about the subject their talking about, even if it's about the type of carpet they have in her bathroom, then it will be appreciated on their part (even if it's a subconscious appreciation). Many people overlook this pivotal part of conversation, to meet others and make your presence have a lasting impression then you need to be engaged in conversation and ultimately engaged in meeting them and getting to know them, it makes them know that you're really interested.
If you take it slow and start talking to people on our site then you're bound to meet someone that you can hit it off with. The first step is just starting a chat; if you put some thought and effort into it then you're bound to start meeting people, as everyone's on our site for a similar reason. A key piece of advice to ultimately succeed in the dating world: keep your head in the conversation, don't think about your feelings towards them or other large picture ideas when talking to them for the first time; stay engaged in the conversation and engaged in the moment, that's the key to developing a connection.
